I suppose we all have those times in our lives where we wonder “why me?” “what else can happen?” or “it never fails!” and then we start to feel sorry for ourselves. I guess we have the right to feel that way. Life can get overwhelming at times, right? Sometimes it feels like I get dealt a lot more than other people and then I really feel sorry for myself! If I wanted to I could work myself into a froth just thinking about all of the things in my life that I have to deal with that others don’t. I could easily get on my soap box about how unfair life is, how no one understands or cares, how exhausted I am, and so on. I could! I could do all that and I could probably even have a lot of people agree with me and feel sorry for me. Here is my question to you, though; why? Why would I, or you, or anyone want to do that?
Listen, we all experience days that are full of those dark clouds of doubt, frustration, fear, anger, uncertainty, etc. I get it! I have a lot of those days. My son is 26 years old and I’m here to tell you…he has been a handful in many ways! I won’t elaborate, because it’s not important, but let me just say that he boasts about giving me every gray hair that I try desperately to hide! We’ve had some rocky roads! BUT, we’ve had way more smooth roads, laughs, victories, celebrations, etc. than we’ve had rocky roads. I’ve learned over the years that it’s how you choose to look at things that determines how you react and live your life. I chose a long time ago to always remember that I am blessed!
My child has Down syndrome, so what? I have a precious child who loves me unconditionally and he made me a mom! There are millions of women who desperately want that title but won’t get it. I got it! Silver lining! Sure, he talks back to us and gets into trouble! Silver lining; he is verbal and knows how to express his feelings! He can’t drive and will always depend on me to get to and from his activities. Silver lining; we have more time to talk and spend together AND another silver lining is that he has these amazing activities to attend!
I can’t take all the credit; I think my mom and I shared happy genes! She was always so positive and encouraging and that brought comfort to me. I want to be a source of comfort to my children, too. I want others to see that there is always something to be grateful for! There is always a silver lining; sometimes it’s easier to see than at other times but it’s there! Choosing to find light and laughter in difficult situations has been a healthier and more effective way to deal with hard times. I look at it as an opportunity to learn, grow, and become a stronger me!
– Laurie Lam, Springible Contributor